the shell answer-woman is now off duty


And now a word from our blogger.

I do not have all the answers. I write about my life experience with breast cancer and as a survivor. a great deal of what I write is opinion, capice? As in my opinion, my thoughts. You can like or leave my opinions, your choice. I always answer honestly to the best of my ability.

Today someone left me a comment on a Tamoxifen post about their “niece”. Apparently this woman lost her job, is going through a divorce, and either isn’t eligible for COBRA health benefits or can’t afford them. So this “aunt” asked me what should she do because she takes Tamoxifen.

So I said (at first) a lot of people can get COBRA. Which is true. I also said a lot of states offer benefits or access to assistance (which is true). I also suggested a couple of non-profits that I see giving grants or stipends or whatever you call it to BC people . I also suggested that this woman tell her “niece” to go to her doctors and ask them – I know darn well that many doctors will try to help steer them towards sources for aid so that patients stay on meds. Or of course this woman could check pharmaceutical companies that produce Tamoxifen to see who has what kind of a reduced cost availability, etc. I also did say that this “niece” had to learn to be her own advocate. That is entirely true.

But no……this woman did not like anything I had to say. I am guessing I was supposed to have all the answers, or get out my checkbook?

I am full on Tamoxifen cranky in the mood department today, but you know what? I don’t need this crap.

I wish I had all the answers, but I don’t. What I do know is I cannot be all things to all people. Nor should I be expected to be as such.

When I get comments like this woman it is offensive enough to make me want to make this blog go dark.

Thanks for listening to Ms. Cranky Pants!

About carla

Writer, blogger, photographer, breast cancer survivor. I write about whatever strikes my fancy as I meander through life.
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3 Responses to the shell answer-woman is now off duty

  1. Melinda says:

    oh geez a few words of wisdom before I lay myself to sleep; (1) Ye cannot change anyone (not that you’d want to, but the opportunity is always there,,,,heh hehhe ! ) (2) You are who you are and whoever doesn’t like it–too bad for them! (3) Have no qualms about telling people to kiss your ass because if they are your friends, they’ll readily do it, no questions asked.

    No mindless stupid nonsense,. This is not a Barbie pool party I am quite sure that you feel the same. Once one has survived,,,,it is only upward from here!

    Screw all of these people who are nasty and negative,

  2. laurenkramer says:

    I am writing a story for the Philadelphia Jewish Exponent about blogging/keeping a personal website and the extent to which it helps those with a cancer diagnosis stay positive. I’d love to talk with you on the phone. Can you let me know how to reach me or call me, during PDT office hours, at 1 888 6764499?
    Thank you!!

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